{"id":5360,"date":"2019-06-20T08:16:32","date_gmt":"2019-06-20T12:16:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.starkeith.net\/coredump\/?p=5360"},"modified":"2019-06-20T08:16:40","modified_gmt":"2019-06-20T12:16:40","slug":"a-lonely-social-media-vacation-report","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.starkeith.net\/coredump\/2019\/06\/20\/a-lonely-social-media-vacation-report\/","title":{"rendered":"A Lonely Social Media Vacation Report"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Over a month ago I decided to take a break from social media for a while – a social media vacation<\/a>, if you will. Ultimately, I’m glad I took a break – my social media was starting to consume me instead of the other way around – but at the same time, I’m also glad to be back again. This is because, and I know this might sound kind of silly, but being off social media was… lonely?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s strange how loneliness is still kind of a shunned topic these days. Although we’ve become much more open to talking about depression, and how it’s not your fault and so forth, when it comes to loneliness, the common perception is still that the root cause of it is something you’ve done to yourself. “Get out more,” “join a club,” or “make some friends” are things that people might say or think. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Easier said than done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my case, I work from home full-time, so all my interactions with co-workers are done online. Outside of work, I have no close friends nearby, and so all my social interactions have to be done either online or else very infrequently. Given this, taking a vacation from social media effectively meant taking a vacation from almost everyone I knew.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“But Keith,” I might hear some of you say, “aren’t you an introvert? Don’t you like being alone?” Ah yes, a classic misunderstanding. There is a big difference between “being alone” and “being lonely.” Also, being an introvert doesn’t mean wanting to be alone all the time – instead it means more needing <\/em>to be alone, sometimes<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As for the “alone” vs “lonely” thing, these are obviously not the same thing. I can be alone (no one around) while not being lonely (because I just spoke to someone, or because I’m interacting with people remotely). Likewise, I can be among a huge group of people (not alone) but be very lonely (not feeling a connection to any of them). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this circles back to my social media vacation experience: because I am often alone (sometimes weeks go by where the only other human being I see in person is my wife), cutting off my social media experience cut me off from my major way of interacting\/connecting with people – which naturally left me feeling a bit lonely after a while. (Luckily I did allow myself other communication methods during my self-imposed social media vacation, such as private chats and email, which helped keep me from feeling totally isolated.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while I’m glad I took a break to sort of re-calibrate myself, I’m also glad to be back and using social media again (though I plan to be a bit more strict with it, lest I end up in the same place again). It was good to use this blog as an outlet rather than tweeting everything, and I plan to continue to use it – in case it’s not obvious, I do actually really enjoy writing! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that’s my report on my experience with a little more than a month away from social media. If you find yourself feeling consumed by social media in a similar way, you might try taking a break from it as well. It’ll be hard at first – goodness knows it was for me as well – but I do think it’s worth doing every now and again. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Being off social media for a while was good, but it started to get lonely, so… I’m back!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"webmentions_disabled_pings":false,"webmentions_disabled":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"activitypub_content_warning":"","activitypub_content_visibility":"","activitypub_max_image_attachments":3,"activitypub_interaction_policy_quote":"anyone","activitypub_status":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[200],"tags":[479,100,473],"class_list":["post-5360","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-my-life","tag-loneliness","tag-opinion","tag-social-media","entry"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pimUj-1os","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":5279,"url":"https:\/\/www.starkeith.net\/coredump\/2019\/05\/15\/a-social-media-vacation\/","url_meta":{"origin":5360,"position":0},"title":"A Social Media Vacation","author":"Keith Survell","date":"May 15, 2019","format":false,"excerpt":"When something stops bringing you joy, maybe it's time to stop using it - and so it has become with my social media feed (at least for now).","rel":"","context":"In "personal"","block_context":{"text":"personal","link":"https:\/\/www.starkeith.net\/coredump\/category\/personal\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":473,"url":"https:\/\/www.starkeith.net\/coredump\/2005\/04\/08\/vacation\/","url_meta":{"origin":5360,"position":1},"title":"Vacation","author":"Keith Survell","date":"April 8, 2005","format":false,"excerpt":"I'm going away this week - I'm going to be on vacation in Sanbornton, NH. 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